This might sound a bit circular, but it’s an important distinction.

If you start on the wrong step, you will get frustrated, and you’ll imbed that into your thinking.

Watch the video below and…

See What a BAD Approach Looks Like -
Then I’ll Show You How To Fix YOUR Approaches…

One of the most powerful personal development methods you can use to alter the course of your life (your DESTINY, really) is through the use of QUESTIONS.

Questions cut through and clarify the current state of affairs, and they help you see what may not have been visible before. However, they can only do this if you have the guts to answer them TRUTHFULLY. The man who lies to himself can never see the world clearly, and will then subject every bit of his reality to illusion - like looking at the world through distorted glass. In the short-term, he’ll make himself feel ‘better’ about things by lying to himself, but in the long-term he’ll just ensure his own failure.

Success is fleeting when it’s based on faulty understanding.

Ask yourself a few questions to clarify where YOU are right now:

Remember that when you first begin to interact with a woman, unless she already has a strong initial attraction for you - sometimes known as “chemistry”, you are in a neutral zone with her. This is a place where she has yet to make up her mind as to whether you are interesting to her or not.

Now, you can choose to sift through dozens and dozens of women looking for the few that you have that instant “chemistry” with, but I find it much more practical to stimulate the woman’s attraction so that she has that chemistry right away, and then I can choose whether or not to act on my own attraction. It’s like getting a pre-approved loan and knowing you COULD go out and buy that new Porsche, but it’s YOUR choice.

This, guys, is what seduction is all about. Having your own choice as to whether a woman interests YOU or not, not the other way around.

Back to the Neutral Zone (and I’m not talking about that Star Trek term, either…)

In order to get that tension going - a necessary tension - you need to zap her out of her neutral funk and get her into feeling EXCITEMENT. There are many ways to do this:

1. Teasing - You find little areas of insecurity, and you play with them a little. This isn’t to belittle her or make her feel bad about herself, but to demonstrate your own confidence and security by showing that you’re aware of your own dominance as a man, and that you do not fear her. Teasing also lowers her guard a little so that you can reach that “real” part of her personality that she is cloaking with defensive behavior. (Sometimes called “tease to please”)

2. Humor - Humor takes the edge off your teasing (sometimes called cocky/funny). Women are dying to laugh. There are so many guys out there that have ZERO humor to them. They take everything too seriously, including women, which - honestly - creeps them out. Compare: A man with humor enjoys life, is relaxed enough to find the fun in everything, and shows that he has a sense of inner calm. A man without humor is not relaxed, takes things way too seriously, and tends to smother and convey insecurity with his intense behavior.

3. Contradiction - An independent, secure guy can express his own opinion (and he MUST). You should make it a point to contradict her opinion from time to time to demonstrate that you do not need her approval. He doesn’t do it to prove her wrong, but to state his own belief in clear terms. And this includes calling her on her bratty behavior, as well as taking control when the situation demands it. This may be the toughest behavior for most “nice guys” to adopt. And it will also sound radically contrary to what you’ve been brought up to believe by the media and your mom.

4. Detachment - Again, an independent, secure man does not NEED a woman (or other people, for that matter) for his approval. He can stand alone and separate of her opinion, and it doesn’t ruffle his feathers if she doesn’t like something he did or said. This means the ability to walk away, turn away, and otherwise disengage from a woman so that she understands he is not there to kiss her ass. Another way to show this is to allow for long pauses between contacts with a woman. Don’t email her right back. Don’t call her right back. A few days could easily pass for a guy who is overwhelmed with women, so why shouldn’t it be that way for you right now? Give her a chance to miss you. (Instead of wondering why you’re so desperate that you leave five messages every day.)

These are just some of the ways you can heighten the level of sexual tension between you and a woman.

Now, there are some guys out there that are afraid of raising this tension. I suspect this is partly because this kind of tension feels uncomfortable to them. It can often border on making her angry which is something that most guys are afraid to do. After all, you want her to LIKE you, right? How will making her potentially DISlike you help?

Well, it’s really about a push-pull effect. The idea is to induce a gentle tug-of-war with her that will get things started. When she thinks you’re going to pull, you give her slack, which throws her off balance. And that’s when you pull her back in. It’s just like fishing: Give her a little “line,” and see if she bites. When she does, you pull in a little. (Too much too quick and you yank the hook right back out.) Then you give her a little slack so she thinks she’s free, and the hook digs in a little more. Then you give it a little tug to pull her back in.

Push-pull. Reel her in, let her go.

The tension you are elevating has only one kind of outlet - sexual attraction. Sometimes it will even start out as anger and then morph into passion and lust. (Remember the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy.)

You’re better off with a woman that is pissed at you than one that has no feelings for you. Your knee-jerk reaction to her anger is to smooth out the problem, afraid that you’ve somehow lost her. When you don’t NEED, you can’t LOSE.

Again, passion very often starts out with a woman APPEARING to hate the man at first.

(Review how this happens in the first Indiana Jones movie, as well as the movie “The Breakfast Club,” and especially the police station scene in “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.” Yes, they are movies, but they accurately depict how this phenomenon works. And if you’ll watch it closely, it may seem counter to what you might think, but at a gut level - it MAKES SENSE and feels right. This sort of thing happens all the time.)

Don’t be afraid of that tension, guys. Feed off it and escalate it. This will make the difference between the guy that walks away with the sweet taste of woman on his lips… or the bland and disappointing taste of her “friendship.”

Most guys are treating their dating life like a piss-poor investment. They go out and ogle the high-price stocks (the beautiful women) but they refuse to get in the game and summon the investment capital (dating skills.)

(Maybe you’re sick of the investment analogy, but I’m a great believer that analogies help you look at things in a different light. It’s easy to get complacent when you think of women in the same old terms, but not so easy when you realize that you’d NEVER settle to get this kind of lame return on any other kind of investment of your money, time, or energy.)

Stop settling for sub-standard performance. And I mean this for you and for her. You shouldn’t let yourself accept that what you’re getting right now is the best you can get in terms of return, and you certainly should look at where you can raise the bar for your own performance.

How can you improve?

I played guitar for 14 years, and even though I got pretty good, I picked it up every single day knowing that I didn’t know it all. There was always something I needed to work on and improve. The funny thing is that it was usually working on my ability to relax and let the music come out as opposed to forcing it that made all the difference in the world.

Where can you improve?

Can you see where you’re not getting the results you want and make a move on a real investment? Are you with a woman right now that you’re not getting the kind of return you want, and you want to figure out how to improve her yield?

Don’t accept what you’re given freely. Chances are that the world will give you all that you want if you’ll only have the guts to sit down and demand it.

Remember, people don’t give you their best until you ask for it, and expect it. What you’re getting right now is their minimum effort to get any return from you. The more you give them back, the less they figure they need to do for you.

This is especially true in dating. This may sound negative and pessimistic, but it’s a very real fact of human nature. We slide by with a minimum of effort wherever possible.

Be careful not to let this attitude creep into your abilities with women.

Ask for more, from her — AND from you.

Now, don’t worry, I’m not going off on a mystical California carpet ride with you. I’m just trying to highlight a concept with you that relates to dating.

I was having a talk with a fellow webmaster, and we were discussing how men and women channel their energies in their lives. Think about how you use your own creative energy, or your physical energy. We sometimes put it into our exercise, such as Triathlons and weightlifting. Or, you may be like me, a frustrated writer that needs to pour his mind out on paper as a form of mental therapy.

What about sexual energy? Now, any guy that’s spent a couple weeks abstinent knows what I mean by this kind of energy, and you damn well know it’s real, too. There are days of sexual frustration where you wake up and shut off your alarm with a roundhouse kick, and then you go to work and belt out about thirty pages of spreadsheets, upgrade the workstations on five floors, and it’s not even 7:30 in the morning.

For a woman, sexual energy is less about immediate and direct gratification. Most of the women I have known never get “horny” the way a guy will. Sure, some do, but it’s only after they’ve broken down some of their trust barriers with a man and can feel safe and secure about putting her more primal physical desires out there.

Now, think about frustration for a guy. When a guy gets frustrated from his goal, what happens? When you find yourself thwarted at every turn, what emotion begins to rear its head?

You get angry.

Men are hardwired by the testosterone in their bloodstream to feel aggression when they are held back from their desires. They get pissed, and then they are prone to get very aggressive. Now, luckily for modern civilization, we don’t always act on this feeling, but if you look around you I think you’ll agree that we still let that frustration find its natural outlet. I get frustrated at certain things in my life, and I’ll feel the old Incredible Hulk syndrome start to kick in. (Even if I can’t shred my shirt and kick as much ass as the Hulk can.)

How do women react to frustration?

Have you ever watched a woman when she gets flustered and teased? Have you seen how she behaves? I’ll be honest, it’s almost embarrassingly primitive and childish.

First, the women gets excited. It even looks amazingly like anger, but it’s not. It’s a delicious cocktail of thrilling and emotional energy.

Then, the woman gets TURNED ON.

She doesn’t even realize it, but it’s there. You see, women have an entirely different reaction and outlet for their frustration, and it’s not like our male aggressive behavior. It’s a form of FEMALE aggression, called sexual excitement. She can’t get rid of the energy any other way.

Remember this. It’s why women respond to the Tease to Please so strongly. It’s why they respond to our challenges the way they do. And it’s the secret for leading her into attraction for you.

At first, you may reject this as being too simplistic and cliche, but if you look behind the Hollywood smoke screen, you’ll see that this is what she’s looking for. This is what many women respond to, and it’s a critical step in your building up mystery and challenge in her eyes.

It’s interesting, because it’s rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it’s what they’re MISSING. A person lacks personality because they are like a song without any hook or catchy riff.

You gotta have personality if you’re going to get a woman interested in you.

A woman has to feel that static crackle around you, that you’re not like the rest of the chumps with “LOOKING FOR SEX” tattooed on their foreheads.

She wants to see some spark, some glimmer of magical presence that you carry.

A woman walks through life fairly bored with her relationship possibilities. I have a theory that most men don’t really challenge them at all. For you to make an impression, you just have to offer her something she doesn’t usually get from the salad bar.

Can you excite her? Can you demonstrate a man with qualities that separates him from that pack of wild hyenas?

To snap her out of her stupor, what would you be willing to do? What if I told you that you don’t have to do much to wake her up? You don’t have to juggle, or dance, or perform acrobatics.

You’ve just got to stand out from the rest of the guys out there. You’ve got to be willing to display some PERSONALITY.

What makes up “personality”?

• Mystery - The self-control to keep certain secrets and avoid telling her everything about you.
  Humor - Make her laugh
  Confidence - The willingness to be independent and not needy of a woman
  Originality - Thinking different than the crowd
  Excitement and Positivity - The great attitude and energy of a person with a purpose
  Hobbies and interests - OTHER than women. This is what it means to “get a life.”
  Conversational Ability - The ability to communicate with women on a level they can understand and get excited about

There are other, subtler traits that could be talked about in boring detail, but these are the important aspects of projecting a winning personality to women.

If I were to boil it down to just two of these, I’d say humor and conversational ability are the foundation, and the others just serve as polish to make you gleam in her eyes.

If you can make her laugh - a real laugh that says she finds you witty and amusing, without putting yourself down - you will get her to open the door of opportunity for you.

If you can talk to her about that and everything else in between, without making her feel like you’re trying to get her into bed, that you appreciate her as unique and special, you’ll get to step inside that door of opportunity.

PERSONALITY SABOTAGE

Would you like to know what you’re doing that sabotages this along the way?

There’s one thing you do that undermines all this effort to get her attracted with your witty conversation, and you have to get rid of it to succeed long term.

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….
Are you ready for this?

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….
I’m not sure I should tell you this, but you need to know. It’s important …

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ….
COMING ON TO A WOMAN TOO STRONG.

Now the funny part about me telling you that is that you can hear me tell you this, and you’ll even nod your head and say, “Yeah, dude, I know…”

BUT YOU WON’T STOP DOING IT!

Why?

Why can’t you stop yourself?

I got in a discussion with a female friend of mine the other day. She came in and told me that she was going to Boston and hoped things would go well on this business trip. She said she thought there was an 85% chance that she wouldn’t get all stressed out. I asked her, “Well, what accounts for that other 15%?” She said, “Oh, that’s stuff I can’t control.”

I waited for a beat, then I said, “How you feel and react is 100% under your control. It’s whether you CHOOSE to or not. How you react is ALWAYS under your power. No one else makes you do anything.”

She wanted to argue with me over whether her reaction was 100% under her “responsibility” rather than control, but I refused to back down. She was just trying to find a reason to excuse herself for not doing things she knew she needed to do. Responsibility is not the same as actually understanding that you are not under some other mystical power or influence. YOU are the one who does everything. By choice.

We could go into a whole circular debate over the nature of free will here, but I won’t. You need to take both responsibility AND control of your actions. When you fail to do what you know you must do, there’s a REASON. And until you find out what that REASON is, you’ll probably never change your behavior.

So back to my original point - why do men come on strong to women?
(Since this is the one part of your personality that will sabotage all your work unless you can control it.)

It’s because we’re in a hurry. We lack the self-discipline to slow it down.

Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance.
Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

Do you see how this ruins your work?

If you come on too strong, she backs off. If you come on slow and easy (which also demonstrates confidence and self-control) she’ll go along with you.

Can you see what you’re doing wrong and correct it, without having someone tell you to your face what you may be doing to put them off?

Can you let go of what other people think of you and act based on your internal compass instead of their judgments?

And then can you exercise the self control you need to in order to stop coming on too strong to her? She won’t date you or sleep with you just because you push her hard enough. She’ll do it because her attraction mechanism inside her is turned on by your personality, and then feeling that she has the space to reach forward and act on her desires with you. She cannot do this if you’re all over her like white on rice.

Learn the reasons why you can’t stop yourself from doing what you know you should do. Learn what these mechanisms are inside you that keep you from doing the things you know you must, and then change them.

Let’s continue:

Remember when you were just an eight-year-old kid on the playground? There were all these ’strange’ creatures playing around the sandbox. They were called girls, and they seemed so bizarre and foreign to you. They were delicate and interesting in a way that you couldn’t quite explain, but you knew that they were different.

How do kids treat those that are different? They tease them.

“Mary, Mary, she’s so hairy!”
“Where’d you get that backpack? Looks like a hunchback!”
“Jenny’s got a CARROT top!”

Boys teased girls. Girls teased boys. Everyone made fun of everyone else. It was sandlot politics at its best, and you learned very quickly that you had to develop a callus to the teasing, or you’d get bruised pretty badly. (Some kids never adjusted, and grew up with their own sandbox issues.)

Ah, what fun those days were. Well, sort of.

We learned some very primitive social interactions there, but the principles still held for many of us. (Hey, whether or not you like it, we’re a lot closer to those kids in the playground than the adults you think we are. Everyone is still a little kid inside.)

I’ll be willing to bet you that you teased more girls because you liked them than you did because of any genuine weirdness. Sure, there’s some cruelty, but the first social interaction most boys have with girls is when they teased them mercilessly. And what happened? The girls stuck up for themselves. They teased back. And they didn’t realize it at the time, but this set in motion a whole pattern of behavior that led to them being very interested and attracted when they are CHALLENGED.

That’s right, boys. Teasing is all about raising the stakes of challenge to her, and letting her know that you don’t get all mushy inside when you get near a girl. No confidence = no attraction from her.

Tease to Please is a simple strategy. By teasing, you emulate a lot of the self-confidence you need to demonstrate with a woman. That’s really the secret in a nutshell. Call it what you want, Cocky and funny, confident and humorous, Tease to Please. You are showing her you have the balls to not roll over and pant like a whipped dog every time a woman comes near you.

Here’s how you do it:
When we left off, you’d just delivered your introduction. Now you are in a position to continue the conversation as you see fit. You’ve disarmed her natural defenses and opened up your opportunity to engage her attraction mechanism. You do this through Teasing.

Here’s one of the examples we used last time:

Example: She’s got bright red shoes on.

YOU: “Wow, those are … interesting shoes. My sister might like a pair like that. Where’d you get them…?”
HER: “Oh, these? Uhm, I got them at Macy’s. They’re really old. I was looking to get a new pair.”
YOU: “Well, my sister is pretty young, but she’d like that style. For an OLD lady … (PAUSE) … you’re a pretty sharp dresser.” You give her a SLIGHT smile that says “That was a joke.”

Remember, “sister” can be changed to aunt, or cousin, or whatever. You can use my standard response I gave you for now, but you’ll do better if you learn how to think on your feet and come up with more personal and customized versions. There are a whole host of teasing responses. Here are some others (delivered with that sly smile):

“Well, with heels that high, you better watch out for awnings. And low-flying planes.”
“How many feet have you crushed with those things? I’m wearing steel-toes, so don’t try it on me.”

Let’s say it’s about a ring she’s wearing:
“Well, my sister likes those ‘groovy’ rings, too. Do you have a mood ring? I bet you were the kind of girl to wear one of those. Was it blue all the time? You look like you have cold hands.”
“My sister likes toe rings like that. Do you wear them on your toes, too? Just don’t tell me you have a weird piercing, like your butt-cheek. That would just be TOO freaky.”
“Wow, that thing is HUGE. I bet you have to leave it off when you go swimming, huh? Or else you’d sink right to the bottom.”

It goes on and on. In fact, you could sit down and just think up a handful of these for a few different items of clothing (shoes, purse, jacket) and/or jewelry and be set for almost ANY encounter.

Doesn’t it feel great to know that you can now control your meetings and increase your ratios?
No, no, please, hold your applause…

Remember: Don’t be insulting. Be TEASING. Teasing is done with a tongue-in-cheek sense of humor. You kid with her. If you make fun of her in a mean or malicious way, you’re out. If you don’t let her know you’re kidding, you’re out.

The point of all this is to:
A) Get her laughing
B) Challenge her (by demonstrating Self-confidence and that you’re DIFFERENT.)

After you joke with her a little, make a decision if this is a woman you might be interested in. If so, you smile and start to walk away. Then, turn right back and TELL her (don’t ask):

“Hey, you know, we might like to continue this conversation sometime. Write down your number for me.” (Memorize this phrasing to use.)

An alternate approach: “Hey, you know, I might like to continue this conversation sometime. Write down your email address for me.”

If she says she doesn’t have a pen, you DO, and hand it to her. If she says she doesn’t have email, tease her some more: “No email? You didn’t just get off a desert island did you?” Smile. “Here, just give me your home phone.” (As she starts writing): “Uhm, your REAL number. I’m just going to call you as soon as I get home and leave a dozen annoying messages on your answering machine.” Smile. Take her number and leave. Don’t tell her you’ll call. Leave her wondering.

That’s it. You disarm her defenses by keeping a sense of humor. You show self confidence and challenge her by teasing a little. Then you ask for what you want, and then you leave. You’re a busy guy, with a busy schedule of too many women to meet.

This completes your education on the Tease to Please approach. Now, as I said before, for such an invaluable and easy to use technique (given to you FREE, I’ll add) the least you can do is to start putting it to use. I want to hear from guys who go out and start getting some action from the use of this.

‘Cause I’ll guarantee you one thing: You will get more responsiveness from women with this simple approach than ANY other tactic. More response = more practice. More practice = more dates. More dates = more sex. Or more relationships, or whatever it is you want. It all starts here.

Get more women in your life. THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS.

Let’s hear from those out there who are ready to stop doing what doesn’t work and start learning to improve their odds. Write to me. Tell me what you did and how it worked. (But remember, if all you’re going to do is try to shoot holes at it without having tried, I’m going to cut you to shreds… This stuff WORKS. Give me your best shot.

If you meet more women, you get more experience, you get more confidence, you get laid more, and more options open up to you. If you date only a few women, you tend to cling on to each as if she was your saving grace.

We’re going to start you on a program of understanding how to meet women at any time and any place. All you need to do is open your eyes and set aside about 4 minutes (or less) to talk to her, if that. This approach will work ANYWHERE you see a woman, and it doesn’t require you to memorize a bunch of secret handshakes or hypnotic trance words.

Ready?

Tease to Please works because it short-circuits her usual defense mechanisms to meeting ’strange’ men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defense mechanism against meeting new guys. When a guy approaches her, for any reason, she assumes you’re picking up on her. It’s what she’s gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine of being a little stand-offish to you until you bust past this barrier.

You have 3 seconds from spotting a woman to when you approach her and say something to engage her interest. If you wait longer, your opportunity window closes faster than Ticketmaster can sell out Britney Spears tickets.

In that 3 seconds, you do this:

Look her over, and spot something about her appearance that you can comment on. Start with her shoes, and work your way up. DO NOT choose a physical body trait (like big earlobes, bubble-butt, giant breasts) to comment on. Especially not her overall attractiveness.

You find ONE thing that you can key off of and say something about that will give you and inroad. This is your ANCHOR. Once you’ve found it, you comment on it to her and smile at her, making strong eye contact.

Example: She’s got bright red shoes on. “Wow, those are … interesting shoes. My sister might like a pair like that. Where’d you get them…?”

Example: She’s got a black denim dress on. “My sister likes dresses like that. Where’d you get it…?”

(If you don’t have a sister, use ‘Aunt’ or ‘Cousin.’ You shouldn’t have to lie.)

She’ll say something like, “Oh, I got it at Macy’s” or something like that. You then nod your head and look at it for a second, as if you can’t make up your mind about it. At no time do you ever throw out the usual nauseating male flattery approaches, like “Oh, that dress goes so PERFECTLY with your cheekbones.” (There is a time and a place for flattery, and it’s NOT in an improvised meeting like this.)

Flattery is the scream for approval of the desperate guy. It’s like cotton candy - sweet for a split second, but disappears almost immediately. You want to dangle the PROMISE in front of her first.

You *almost* convey a look of inconvenience, that you went out of your way to comment on her alligator-skin shoes, or her denim skirt. The less she thinks you approached her out of sexual interest, the lower her guard is.

Don’t be insulting! Just be mysterious and ambiguous.

(Her next mental question is: “Gee, I wonder if he likes my dress? He didn’t say.” )

From here, you will bridge into the Tease portion of the conversation, and we’ll cover that in the next installment. All there really is left to do is to keep her engaged in the conversation for just a minute or two, show some confidence, and walk away with her phone number.

Now, the typical question I get is “What if there’s nothing out of the ordinary about her?”

Simple: You make something up. There is ALWAYS something you can find when you look, and if it’s not readily apparent, you make it up. If she’s got clothes on (and even here in San Francisco, they still wear clothes) you can find something to pick out. I recommend looking for jewelry, because every woman takes a lot of thought in selecting her jewelry.

For especially attractive women, you need to come on a bit differently, and it pays to use a combination of the negative-hit with this. I even recommend that when you get used to this technique, you use it exclusively on the hotties. When you’re comfortable with it, it makes more impact.

You say just one thing, and it’s so easy you’ll have a tough time forgetting it:

“Your dress/shoes/blouse/jacket/purse (whatever) caught my eye. I like the style, but I think you should try it in black, instead. You’d look better with it in black instead of gray.” (Choose the color accordingly.) You nod your head, again meeting her eyes full-on.

Her head will suddenly spin … “But… but… all the other guys said I looked like a fashion model with this on… What do you mean?”

By using these approaches, you’ve just flipped her trust switch in her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and trust YOU - or she quickly categorizes you as a friend (FRIEND = non-lover, a woman you won’t be able to sleep with). If you just start talking to her neutrally, she’s wondering, “Is he safe?” For all she knows, you’re a nut-case looking to pull her into a multi-level marketing scheme. NOW, all of a sudden, she is suddenly told (by your words and actions) that you might not be so interested. You’re different - i.e., INTERESTING to her.

For the first week or so, if you’re feeling a bit nervous about approaching women, work your way into this slowly. Just use the intro line I gave you, and take it wherever you need. Hell, I’d even recommend you ONLY ask her the first part (”Where’d you get xxxx, my sister might like that …”), then say “thanks” and walk away. Get used to just chatting up anyone and everyone you meet. Take the pressure off for the first week or two, until you get used to the fact that WOMEN AREN’T GOING TO REJECT YOU LIKE YOU THINK THEY WILL.

You don’t need anything fancy or clever. You don’t need anything special to comment on. You just take WHATEVER she is wearing or holding and comment on it AS IF IT WERE different or interesting. Then, by virtue of following it up with a quick tease, you get her mind off her initial defense (IS HE SAFE?) and on to validating herself a little to you. This is the primary psychological underpinning of the whole “TEASE TO PLEASE” method. And I just gave it to you in a simple, workable format.

What most guys will do is to spend all their energy trying to climb over her initial trust hurdle, when they really need to focus on getting her to flip that switch in her head by making HER the one to present herself to you. (This will be more apparent when I explain the Tease portion in our next installment.)

Most guys will take any approach and shoot it down and find everything they can about what’s WRONG with it before they will go out and use it and make it work. My advice to you is to prove it won’t before you even think about coming back to me with a rebuttal. I know that I’ll get scads of letters asking me what to do in X situation or Y situation, because they’re ‘different’ somehow, but it makes NO difference. You only have to spot one anchor on her to comment about. I use it all the time, and it is very effective.

Just remember to keep things light and humorous, and never to insult.

ANYTHING can work, if you just use it in the right way. I just gave you the first half of a technique that works ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. On ANY woman. The best part about it is that it is simple, universal, and effective. All you have to do is to find your target, find an anchor, and start your Tease … (but only to please…)

In the next e-zine, I will cover many other focused approaches that you can use as well, from meeting her online, or at a dance class, or at a bookstore, or even Wal-Mart. You’ll also get the complete breakdown of the psychology to the close for the phone number. I’ll tell you where and when to use flattery, and how to mine the rich ore of women you see every day. There’s nothing you won’t know about meeting ANY woman ANYtime, ANYwhere. (I’ll even tell you what the single underlying reason is for a woman’s defense for all men that approach her, and how to bypass it.)

Now, get out there and start getting in the game. You play it from the comfort of the stands.

Stay tuned! It’s going to get good…
I’ll have the last half of this method to you soon.